I’ve finally taken the plunge and set up a real site for my book reviews. From now on, you can find me at Melody & Words!
I’ve finally taken the plunge and set up a real site for my book reviews. From now on, you can find me at Melody & Words!
Title: The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women
Author: Jessica Valenti
Release Date: March 2009
Publisher: Seal Press
Genre: Nonfiction; women’s studies; sexuality studies
Rating: 3 out of 5
Jessica Valenti argues in The Purity Myth that the United States is obsessed with virginity. She asserts that those associated with the abstinence movement are perpetuating the virgin/whore dichotomy, which sets up only two kinds of women: one to be admired and emulated and the other to be disgraced and shunned. Valenti opposes the idea that a sexually active woman is “tainted” or “impure” and thereby unworthy, and she protests against the movement’s emphasis on chastity, marriage, and parenthood.
She comments, “In this mess of chastity expectations, objectification, and control of women, we have lost a very fundamental truth: Sex is amazing, and there’s nothing wrong or dirty or shameful or sinful about it.”
In particular, she takes to task:
The abstinence teacher who tells her students that they’ll go to jail if they have premarital sex. The well-funded organization that tells girls on college campuses that they should be looking for a husband, not taking women’s studies classes. The judge who rules against a rape survivor because she didn’t meet whatever standard for a victim he had in mind. The legislator who pushes a bill to limit young women’s access to abortion because he doesn’t think they are smart enough to make their own decisions. These are the people who are making the world a worse place—and a more dangerous one, at that—for girls and women.
If you already believe that the abstinence movement is harming young women, you will like this book. If you don’t, you’re not likely to change your mind.
There were many parts of this book that I enjoyed. However, I came to it hoping for a clear-eyed, well-argued account of the effects of the movement toward abstinence and virginity. I wanted to recommend the book to my friends who remain on the fence about the issues that Valenti discusses.
This book instead only reinforces the dichotomy between supporters and detractors of abstinence. Much of her prose reads like, well, a pugilistic and snarky blog entry, dominated by her strong opinions. She openly derides those who support the virginity movement, and suggests that her side is the only one to see the finer nuances of the point:
“[F]or those who buy into the virginity movement, the only alternative to being a virgin is being a whore. There’s no in-between for them; there are no shades of gray when it comes to sexuality. . .”
Rather than seeking to build a bridge to the other side, Valenti sets up a fort on her side of the chasm.
That being said, there were many points made in the book that bear repeating.
Valenti begins by exploring how society has put youth on a pedestal. The increasing sexualization of young girls, she explains, cuts both ways—childlike innocence is valued in women of all ages. She observes, “Young women are being trained to be not autonomous adults, but perpetual children whose sexuality is strictly defined and owned, like that of traditional wives-in-training.”
One of the more powerful chapters of the book is devoted to abstinence-only education. More than just teaching children to say “no,” Valenti writes, “abstinence-only curricula . . . are built on outdated notions of gender norms and sexist stereotypes about sexuality and relationships, and ultimately seek a return to traditional gender norms.” Valenti argues that the abstinence movement is not supported very broadly within U.S. society, despite the federal funding it receives. She supports her statements with solid research:
According to a study published in Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine, 82 percent of Americans support programs that teach contraception as well as abstinence, and half of all Americans oppose abstinence-only education altogether. Even among those who describe themselves as conservatives, 70 percent support comprehensive sex education.
Valenti’s professional experience includes working at the National Organization for Women’s legal defense fund, and she has a good handle on legislative issues. Valenti proposes that men—still predominant in politics and policymaking—are making the laws about women’s bodies, seeking legislation ranging from blocking minors’ access to the over-the-counter “morning after” pill, to requiring the father’s note of approval before a woman can have an abortion, to requesting that women report miscarriages within 12 hours for fear of facing murder charges. In Valenti’s opinion, a push toward laws such as these signifies that women aren’t trusted to make their own decisions.
Valenti cites disturbing cases of violence against women, such as that of a young woman who was drinking late at a bar and was kidnapped, tortured, raped, murdered, and dumped beside the road. Another appalling case involved a woman in the Air Force who was raped and, when she reported the crime, was charged with “indecent acts”—essentially being punished for her own rape. In cases such as these, women are often criticized for making poor decisions when they “know better,” but Valenti takes umbrage at the blatant victim-blaming attitude of the media and authorities by stating unequivocally, “Women do not get raped because they weren’t careful enough. Women get raped because someone raped them.”
While I appreciate her in-depth criticism of violence against women (and how it is handled in the media), the mention of violence against men was virtually nil. The only time she even mentions the rape of men is while criticizing an Axe body spray advertisement featuring women harassing and sexually assaulting the men who use Axe. In interpreting the ad as solely making “light of actual violence against women,” Valenti herself trivializes very real sexual violence against men.
The author does touch upon the often-overlooked issue of hypermasculinity, though. She comments:
As much as the virginity movement is based upon the idea that a woman’s worth is dependent upon her sexuality, it’s also mired in the belief that traditional masculinity is superior and its preservation is necessary.
Valenti discusses the harmful effects of masculine ideals upon both men and women; men are supposed to be strong, insensitive, and, above all, NOT womanlike. Not only does this ideology create inequality between the sexes, but it also humiliates men who reveal a sensitive or passive personality, often questioning their sexuality and “manliness” and therefore their very worth.
Which brings me to another one of Valenti’s points: queer sexuality is completely overlooked in an abstinence movement that “seeks to create a world where everyone is straight, women are relegated to the home, the only appropriate family is a nuclear one, reproductive choices are negated, and the only sex people have is for procreation.” I’m not surprised; many of the conservative and often religious forces behind the abstinence movement are also anti-gay.
While Valenti has some interesting comments to make about the abstinence movement and its effects upon women’s empowerment, her points are occasionally weakened by her bias. However, I did enjoy many parts of the book, and I would recommend it to anyone with an interest in the abstinence movement and feminism.
Author: Joel Church
Release Date: February 2010
Genre: Flash fiction
Rating: 2.5 out of 5
In this crazy world of novels composed on cell phones and short stories posted on Twitter, flash fiction is all the rage. When done well, flash fiction can offer refreshing glimpses into a story, insights that seem all the more precious for their conciseness. When done poorly, however, the story seems unfinished and empty, almost lazy, with merely the promise of plot.
Fingerprints, Joel Church’s first collection of flash fiction, captures both the enticing and the mundane. Set against the backdrop of Washington, D.C., Church’s characters explore topics ranging from sexuality and drug abuse to childhood and loss. These stories extend from two to ten pages long, and their brevity makes them an excellent read on the metro…
The rest of the review is posted to Inner Loop Lit, my collection of all things literary and D.C.-related. Stop by and check it out!
Readathon is nearing its end, but I’ve decided to make up for time lost sleeping. That’s right, folks–I’m ready for another day of nonstop reading. I haven’t yet hit my goal, so I’ll keep you updated as I go.
Tink and I went on a nice long walk, and I listened to several chapters of Crime and Punishment. I’m hoping to finish it today. First, though, I want to get through The Graveyard Book… if only to get to the next Gaiman book I have waiting for me at the library!
OK, so, that didn’t go as well as planned. Jack and I ended up doing some much-needed house cleaning. We also welcomed into our lives a new bookshelf! Weighing in at 4 feet tall and 2.5 wide, she is a welcome (and beautiful) addition to the family.
I have managed to get some reading done, in between admiring my bookshelf-assembly skills and reorganizing my entire library. I’m nearly done with both The Graveyard Book and Crime and Punishment. And tomorrow I’m planning on reviewing my readathon books before the weekend fades into a muddled haze.
I think this will be my final entry for this year’s readathon. Thanks to all who followed my posts and cheered me on–I had a great time, and I’m already looking forward to next year! Is it too soon to start a TBR list?
Happy readathon, everyone! I’m very excited to be able to participate again this year. I’ve started in on my list by completing 72 pages (out of 215) of The Purity Myth. I’ll keep you updated as I go!
I’m at page 101 of The Purity Myth, and now I’m going to take a “break” and walk Tink… though my iPod (and Crime and Punishment) may come along too!
Tink and I had a lovely walk; she romped about while I listened to a few chapters of Crime and Punishment.
Julia Keller recently made a case in the Chicago Tribune for reading multiple books at once, a stance with which I wholeheartedly agree–I could never choose just one! She observed a simultaneous-reading phenomenon: she is often struck by the similarities between two disparate novels that she is reading. I, too, have often noticed this. In fact, just now, there was a quote in Crime and Punishment that completely coincided with my view of issues presented by The Purity Myth. Who would’ve ever related the two!
After a quick break for lunch, I got back in the game and am now on page 145 of The Purity Myth. I’m contemplating going to the library to pick up a few holds–like I need to add to the TBR stack!
I’m powering through The Purity Myth–I should be finished within the hour. Tink and I took a short break to play fetch, and I didn’t miss the chance to listen to some Crime and Punishment! A weird combination, chastity and madness. Or perhaps not.
The lovely mail-lady brought two more books for me today, but I’m pretty bent on finishing my library stack first. Wish me luck!
I finally finished The Purity Myth, and I can’t wait to review it–hopefully next week. After a quick cup of tea, I’m getting back into The Graveyard Book. I’m already hooked on this story and its characters!
I was reading outside on my patio, but the mosquitoes were beginning to bother me. I’ll head outside once more before it gets dark to take Tink on another romp in the woods. She’s not much of a reader; she’s spent much of the day lying on the floor, with her eyes closed, snoring gently. Not much different from her everyday routine!
I just finished Sheery’s minichallenge, and it was great! I love word scrambles. My answers are below… don’t peek if you haven’t done the challenge!
2.aste fo eend
East of Eden
3. retwa orf pntshleea
Water for Elephants
4.ot lkli a ckomgnrbdii
To Kill a Mockingbird
5. het gtaer ysbtag
The Great Gatsby
6. yrhra tetrpo dna eth lyhdtea wollsah
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
7. ht e rat fo nrgcai ni eht nair
The Art of Racing in the Rain
8.eth mite reslveart efwi
The Time Traveler’s Wife
9. eht rlig ithw eht gnodar ooattt
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
10.ydira fo a mypiw idk
Diary of a Wimpy Kid
11.a kwrlnei ni emit
A Wrinkle in Time
12. het rpoal sxprese
The Polar Express
13.vole dewlak ni
Love Walked In
14.reehw eth dwli hingts rea
Where the Wild Things Are
17. vwtienrie hwti a pvmarie
Interview with a Vampire
18. eht cretse file fo eesb
The Secret Life of Bees
19. eht raesch
20. het pelh
Now it’s back to The Graveyard Book… I’m at page 60 of 307, but it’s going very quickly!
It’s getting late, and this entry is getting long! I took a break earlier to go pick up Jack from his short weekend of playing ultimate. I brought Crime and Punishment along, though. Now I’m at page 119 of The Graveyard Book, and I love the line art interspersed with the words… it adds to the ghostly feel of the story. Can’t wait to review this one in time for Halloween!
I’m now on page 134, and I’m ready to take a bit of a nap. Keep reading, everyone! I’ll catch you in a few hours.
I immediately began thinking of the books that I name as my favorites when asked. But this question goes deeper that listing which books made a great impression on me. If I only had five books to read and re-read for the rest of my life, what would I choose?
The Poisonwood Bible
I’ve re-read this one many times, and I’m due for another soon. I love everything about this book, from the setting and the characters to Barbara Kingsolver’s delicious prose.
The Sun Also Rises
Perhaps it would be better to choose a longer Hemingway work, but this remains my absolute favorite from him. I savor the ending in particular; many times, I have picked up the book just to read the last page.
The English Patient
This book is relatively new to me; I only read it last year. And I immediately wondered why it took so long. I loved the story, and I became very emotionally involved with the characters.
The Complete Collection of William Shakespeare
I had to include a collection! Maybe then I would finally read every play by Shakespeare, one of my literary goals. At the very least, the gilded pages might be used to signal a rescue plane.
This was the first graphic novel I read, and it may remain the greatest. It contains a rich and complex story that only ripens upon re-reads. I recommend it to anyone who loves a good story.
All of this makes me realize that I am due for several re-reads! Did someone say “reading challenge”?